Meeting IRL: The Men’s Guide to Picking Up without Pickup Lines
Fewer people are connecting in real life. Here’s how to not to be one of them.
Lily Allen’s West End Girl: A Breakup Album for a Parasocial Age
Lily is letting us in. Can we get through the mess?
When Allies Turn Judge: Why Democratic Journalists Calling Out Gay Republicans Can Undermine Gay Rights
Don Lemon’s war against gay republicans gets cunty.
Zohran Mamdani’s Promise, the Paradox of Faith, and the Path to Real Safety for Sex Workers
We breakdown Mamadani’s lack of direction in legalization and how he can get it right.
The Art of Nipple Play: Exploring Every Delicious Sensation
When it comes to erotic touch, nipples often get overlooked as a supporting act, but they’re stars in their own right. Packed with nerve endings, they can spark tingles that ripple across the body, sometimes even leading to orgasm on their own. And the best part? There’s no single “right” way… it’s all about curiosity and discovering what makes your body, or your partner’s body, light up.
Sex Swings: A Kink-Curious Guide to Elevated Pleasure
For anyone who’s curious about kink but not ready to jump headfirst into ropes, cuffs, or dungeon furniture, a sex swing is an intriguing middle ground and the first step toward exploring elements of bondage or suspension in a playful, approachable way. A swing doesn’t need to feel intimidating: think of it as furniture that just happens to elevate both your body and your pleasure.
Turning Words Into Foreplay: How Writing Can Rewrite Desire
Every long-term relationship hits a point where sex can feel… predictable. It doesn’t mean the love is gone or the chemistry is broken, it just means the usual rhythms no longer shock your nervous system. The good news? You don’t have to reinvent yourself to bring back the heat. You just need to pick up a pen or your phone.
The Case for Sexual Abundance
Scroll through dating TikTok or Reddit threads about sex and you’ll see the same mood: doom. This pessimism has a name: sexual fatalism, the sense that casual encounters are destined to disappoint, that risks outweigh rewards, and that satisfaction belongs only to the lucky few. But what if this story is incomplete? Maybe the real crisis isn’t a lack of adventurous partners but the lens we use to approach sex. That’s where sexual abundance comes in.
10 Kinky Date Ideas for Cuffing Season
The days are getting shorter, the nights are getting colder, and that can only mean one thing: cuffing season is here. And at The NSFW, we take “cuffing” a little more literally. Whether you’re cozied up with someone new or deepening a long-term connection, this is the perfect time to explore intimacy, play, and maybe just a little bit of kink. Here are 10 date ideas to heat up your cuffing season, including plenty you can bring to life inside the Clubhouse.
Desire in Code: Legal Perspectives on Sex Robots and Consent
At the intersection of law, technology, and gender is the book, The Regulation of Sex Robots: Gender and Sexuality in the Era of Artificial Intelligence (Routledge, 2025), which extends that agenda with a framework for governing human-like, AI-enabled sexual technologies, moving beyond binary debates and pushing for context-aware regulation, rather than knee-jerk bans.
Nathan Lents on the Evolutionary Lessons of Sex and Gender Diversity
Nathan Lents, a professor of biology at John Jay College of Criminal Justice, has devoted nearly 15 years to teaching a course on the biology of sex and gender. Those classroom discussions accumulated into his new book, The Sexual Evolution: How 500 Million Years of Sex, Gender, and Mating Shape Modern Relationships. In it, he argues that diversity is not an exception in the animal kingdom but a rule, and that accepting this truth reshapes both biology and culture.
Ghost Sharks, Transhumanism, and the Evolution of Desire
In the deep ocean, life evolves into forms so alien they often feel more like science fiction than biology. Among the most uncanny of these is the ghost shark, a distant relative of sharks and rays, whose mating rituals involve a forehead-mounted rod lined with retractable teeth. From this strange theater of deep-sea adaptation, it is not difficult to imagine a future where human beings begin to direct their own erotic evolution.
Queer Culture in the Spotlight: From Underground Nights to Everyday Mainstream
There was a time when queer sex culture lived almost entirely in the shadows. Nightclubs with no signs, bathhouses whispered about through word of mouth, hookups arranged in coded personal ads or through chance encounters in dimly lit corners of the city. Fast forward to today and it is impossible to miss how much of that same energy has entered the mainstream.
Could Hookup Culture Actually Be a Path to Happiness?
As American conservatism grows louder in its calls for “traditional marriage” and sex only for procreation, hookup culture has become a favorite target. The Far Right frames casual sex as a threat to stability, intimacy, and mental health. But what if that isn’t the full story? What if hookup culture is stronger and safer than ever and helps people build happier, healthier lives?
‘Sister Hong’ Scandal: When Male Victims Are Invisible
A cross-dressing man in Nanjing, China—dubbed “Sister Hong”—posed as a woman to lure over 1,000 men into intimate encounters, secretly filming them and distributing the footage illegally. This sparked widespread public health concerns when some of the filmed men reportedly tested positive for HIV.
When the WNBA Became a Sex Toy Target Zone
Imagine you're playing in the fourth quarter of a tight WNBA game, the score is neck‑and‑neck, and suddenly… smack!—a neon green dildo lands smack dab on the court.
🏳️🌈 A Caribbean Victory: Saint Lucia Decriminalizes Same‑Sex Intimacy
In a landmark ruling on July 29, 2025, the Eastern Caribbean Supreme Court declared Saint Lucia’s colonial-era laws outlawing consensual gay sex — namely “buggery” and “gross indecency” — unconstitutional.
And Just Like That “Woke” Killed Sex in the City?
The Sex and the City reboot has been canceled after three seasons, largely due to plunging viewership and the backlash over its overt attempts at “woke” storytelling. Critics said it sacrificed charm for an agenda, and many viewers agreed.